A Love Letter For Mother’s Day
A Mother Understands What A Child Does Not Say.
Dear Mama,
Let’s get one thing straight: Motherhood is not for the faint of heart. It’s early mornings, endless snacks, bedtime negotiations that rival international peace talks, and somehow being the only one who knows where everyone’s shoes are. And today—on your day—I just want to say one thing:
You are doing an incredible job.
No, really. You may not always feel like it. Maybe you lost your cool yesterday when the cereal got dumped on the floor. Maybe the laundry is overflowing and the only green thing your kids have eaten this week was sprinkles on a cupcake. Still—you are showing up. With love. With grit. With a heart that wants what’s best for your kids, even when you’re running on caffeine and three hours of sleep.
That’s what matters most.
I coach a lot of amazing moms just like you. Moms who feel like they should be doing more, being more, handling it better. But the truth is, this idea of the “perfect mom” is pure fiction. She doesn’t exist. She never did, and never will. And chasing her only leads to burnout and guilt. What our child needs is not a perfect mom—it’s a present one. A mom who can say, “I love you, and I’m growing and learning right alongside you.”
So on this Mother’s Day, let’s take a moment to flip the script:
Instead of asking, “Am I doing enough?” ask, “What do I need to feel supported today?”
Instead of wishing your patience were stronger, celebrate the moments you took a deep breath and paused before reacting. That’s growth.
Instead of carrying it all alone, reach out. Ask for help, and be clear. Whether it's a friend, a coach, or just five stolen minutes behind a locked bathroom door—you deserve space, too.
And if no one has told you yet today: You’re more than “just a mom.” You’re a human being with your own dreams, emotions, and needs. You’re allowed to take up space. You’re allowed to be tired. And you’re allowed to want joy—not just for your children, but for yourself.
Here’s a little Mother’s Day mantra for you:
🧡 “I am enough, even when the house is a mess.
I am enough, even when I lose my temper.
I am enough, because I love fiercely, grow daily, and keep showing up.”
So let the dishes wait today. Say yes to the nap. Or the bubble bath. Or that slice of cake you hid behind the broccoli in the fridge. (I promise, I won’t tell.)
Thank you for the love, the effort, and the heart you pour into your family every single day. You are seen. You are valued and appreciated.
And one more thing mama. You are not alone. I am here for you.
Happy Mother’s Day.
Debbie 🌷
Growing Change Parent Coach
